Last night we had some friends over who had twins a little over a year ago. They also have a daughter who is Blair's age along with their twin boys. We offered to feed them dinner in hopes that they would let us in on some of their "twin survival" wisdom. :)
They had great advice/wisdom to share. There are certain things that I know I will struggle with but especially having my own pity parties. I got pretty good at that these last two years. I would get caught in this trap of "This is so hard. I am the only person who knows how difficult this is. This is so much harder than ____." (in regards to infertility). When of course this wasn't reality. My friend reminded me tonight that it will be VERY tempting to fall back into the pity party routine and to pray against that. To remember that I'm not the first or only person to ever have twins. I may have to tattoo this to my head. ;)
1.This is a season.
2.Be on the same team as Matt.
3.No pity parties.
4.God chose them to be twins and B to be their sibling. Let Him shape their personalities and mold them. Don't worry about them not getting enough one-on-one time. Recognize the benefits to that.
5.Life will get better after one year (oy.)
6.Be willing to accept help (no problems there).
7.God chose us to be their parents...and these babies are a blessing!
She also gave me advice on the practical things like what were twin necessities. So far I know I need a twin nursing pillow, two swings, two cribs, and to reacquaint myself with Baby Wise. That book was awesome in helping train Blair to sleep and she said it was the same with her twins. She advised to always keep them on the same schedule. Basically keeping them on the same schedule is more important than the actual schedule (if that makes sense). She told me sleep would be obsolete (I figured) and that this time around M would suffer more because with two babies having a second set of hands is not optional.
We talked about superficial things like how one piece swim suits will forever be my friend. We also talked about how these babies will be different than Blair because we waited and prayed for them for so long. It definitely changes your perspective. Any advice from twin mamas out there?