Thursday, July 31, 2014

Fam Bam

We enjoyed an evening walk on the beach last night. And lucky for us Daddy arrived! Pretty grateful for our little fam :). 





Love this sweet girl! Hope you all have a fabulous weekend! 

Pool Babies

Yesterday my friend Brooke and her sweet baby, Harper, joined us for a day at the pool. The girls were so cute together and I'm pretty sure Blair was convinced that Harper was her real life baby doll. 





Melt my heart! Have a great Thursday! 

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

No Reason


It seems that every day is great for Blair until she wakes up from her nap. This dumbfounds me. Who is grumpy AFTER a two hour nap?! Ugh. My kid. She's needy, has melt downs, and lately has been telling me "There's no reason to be mad, Mommy."  

Let's just say I had a gigantic bowl of ice cream after I put her to bed last night. This probably will work against me as the naughtier she is, the fatter I get...

Sigh. Nonetheless she looked cute last night at dinner. Whoopee. I've got a cute monster on my hands...




Shorts: Carter's 
Sweatshirt: roxy at nordstrom 
Flip flops: rainbow outlet
Stains on sweatshirt: dinner 

Anyone else dealing with naughty toddlers?! Defiant little suckers they are...

Monday, July 28, 2014

Books are for Babies

Thanks for all your sweet comments yesterday! I'm always so encouraged by your sweet words. :) 


We're still on vacation mode over here and someone has really been soaking it in with her morning paper. ;) She really did ask me to read it to her. Such a Daddy's girl. We'll be at the beach for another week and a half so if that depresses you then you might wanna check in later! ;) 

Today we're headed to Dana Point for a little tide pool action. Life's a beach. ;) 

Sunday, July 27, 2014

Lessons from Blair


Two year olds can really knock your socks off sometimes. Blair did that for me this weekend. As we were standing at the shore watching Daddy paddle board she asked me to pick her up. I obliged and said I would love to. She then clearly stated that "Mommy does not have a baby in her tummy." I agreed with her, knowing why she said this.

You see, her Aunt Tiffy is due very soon with Blair's first cousin and we have told her lately that Tiffy can't pick her up anymore because she has a baby in her tummy. And since I was picking her up, by default I do not have a baby in my tummy. Two year olds. What logic! But then what she said next brought me to my knees..

"Mommy, Jesus will help you." 

And there you have it. Lessons from a two year old. Her words were very matter of fact and oh so true. 

Now to be honest she didn't come up with this all on her own. Every night when we put Blair to bed we pray. About how thankful we are for things like pajamas, fingers, and Mac n cheese (you know, all the very important things). But then we also pray about actual important things. Like a baby for our family. And mommy and daddy to be patient while we wait for that baby. And for Jesus to help give us a miracle. Because that's what we need. 

So my sweet two year old girl reminded me of what I need to focus on. That Jesus will help me. He hasn't forgotten about me. And good grief if I'm telling her to ask him for help when she needs it, then I better be following my own advice. 

And for the first time just like that I'm hopeful again. I see how Jesus was using Blair to speak peace to me. That he is there. Waiting to help me in his time. 

And so we stood there for a while longer enjoying the breeze blowing across our faces. My face may have been a bit more salty and moist than hers though ;) 




Thanks baby girl for keeping me in check. You continue to amaze and encourage me. 

Friday, July 25, 2014

Thoughts

I just started searching around Pinterest for some articles on dealing with Secondary Infertility (hello, what have I been waiting for). I found a lot of helpful articles/blogs that chronicle different stories of SI. And boy, once I started I couldn't stop reading! 


And then my sis-in-law stumbled upon "What not to say to people facing secondary infertility" and the article couldn't be more spot on. Not that any of you have been insensitive but some people are and this would be good for them to know...

1. STOP IGNORING HER: If you've never struggled with primary or secondary infertility or if you're currently pregnant, don't assume you can't support her. Don't distance yourself from her, stop inviting her to your important events and don't forget to check in with her if she's a bit distant. 

2. STOP ASKING IF SHE'S PREGNANT YET It's stressful to hear this over and over again. I'm sure when she get's pregnant she will tell you, but please don't keep asking... we spend enough time wondering why we're not yet. 

3. STOP TELLING HER IT COULD BE WORSE: For her this is the hardest thing she is dealing with. Of course it could be worse but that doesn't make this any easier.

4. STOP ASKING WHY SHE WANTS MORE: It's insulting and when a family decides to expand, it's probably not a one-person decision and was made with lots of thought. Just because someone has other children, it doesn't make their infertility any less hard.

5. STOP GIVING ADVICE: Don't tell her to relax or to just adopt, or give up or any other unsolicited advice. She doesn't want you to "fix" her or offer your non-medical opinions, but she wants to be heard.

6. STOP ASKING WHY SHE'S SO DEPRESSED: And stop discouraging her from talking about her feelings. If you genuinely think she is, then that's different, but if you think she just spends too much time trying to control things she can't -- that's not a helpful thing to assume she's overreacting in her feelings.

7. STOP ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT YOUR PREGNANCY: and don't always talk about how you always accidentally get pregnant. However, don't also feel like you can't talk about your pregnant life too. The best thing is to feel the room -- give her space to talk about her struggles and give her space to listen to yours.

8. STOP TELLING HER TO BE GRATEFUL: It's insulting to be told that you should be grateful for the children you have when you're talking about secondary infertility. We don't need to be told to be grateful, we are and our pain over infertility has no baring on our other kids.

9. STOP COMPARING HER PATH WITH SOMEONE ELSE: Something I hate hearing is the comparisons over "who has it worse". Don't tell her she's lucky to have kids when someone else has been dealing with primary infertility. Don't tell her she's lucky that it's "only been a year and not two". It diminishes our path and emotions and it's not exactly supportive.

Again, not because all these things have been said to me (although a few have) but because I think it's important to educate yourself on things that can be truly hurtful/insulting without you even realizing it. I think most people have good intentions but sometimes their words still hurt. 



{Stand firm, and see the salvation of the Lord. Exodus 14:13}
Stand firm- keep the posture of an upright man, ready for action, expecting further orders, cheerfully and patiently awaiting the directing voice; and it will not be long before God shall say to you, "Go forward." - Charles Spurgeon

PS I'll be at the beach for the next couple weeks so be prepared for some sparse posts. Hoping some vacation time will be good for me. :)
  • It's insulting to be told that you should be grateful for the children you have when you're talking about secondary infertility. We don't need to be told to be grateful, we are and our pain over infertility has no baring on our other kids.
  • Stop Comparing Her Path with Someone Else 8 of 8
    Stop Comparing Her Path with Someone Else
    Something I hate hearing is the comparisons over "who has it worse". Don't tell her she's lucky to have kids when someone else has been dealing with primary infertility. Don't tell her she's lucky that it's "only been a year and not two". It diminishes our path and emotions and it's not exactly supportive.
  • Stop Ignoring Her 1 of 8
    Stop Ignoring Her
    If you've never struggled with primary or secondary infertility or if you're currently pregnant, don't assume you can't support her. Don't distance yourself from her, stop inviting her to your important events and don't forget to check in with her if she's a bit distant.
  • It's insulting to be told that you should be grateful for the children you have when you're talking about secondary infertility. We don't need to be told to be grateful, we are and our pain over infertility has no baring on our other kids.
  • Stop Comparing Her Path with Someone Else 8 of 8
    Stop Comparing Her Path with Someone Else
    Something I hate hearing is the comparisons over "who has it worse". Don't tell her she's lucky to have kids when someone else has been dealing with primary infertility. Don't tell her she's lucky that it's "only been a year and not two". It diminishes our path and emotions and it's not exactly supportive.
  • Stop Ignoring Her 1 of 8
    Stop Ignoring Her
    If you've never struggled with primary or secondary infertility or if you're currently pregnant, don't assume you can't support her. Don't distance yourself from her, stop inviting her to your important events and don't forget to check in with her if she's  infertility. We don't need to be told to be grateful, we are and our pain over infertility has no baring on

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Read to Me

Yesterday we went to the library with a couple of friends and had such a great time! I'm seriously impressed with our downtown library. They provided story time along with some music and a parachute activity. Then following that our school district was there giving out free (healthy!) lunches along with a bunch of brand new Disney books for Leapfrog. I was SO impressed by our tax dollars at work. I made sure we got our money's worth. ;)








Needless to say we will be back to the library very soon! Blair talked about it the whole week, "We go to library today? The library has a parachute." Big surprise that that was her favorite part. Nevermind the thousands of books on hand...
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