So I ended the last BW post with the beginning of night #2. We put them down after breast feeding and they went right down. They had a four hour run and then the rest were some three hour stretches. (yay!)
At night I swaddle them in their swaddle pods and put them down in their rock-n-play cradles. I have a sound machine, night light, and I diffuse cedarwood and lavender. I also put "gentlebaby" essential oil blend on their feet. Their room also has black out curtains and we keep the temperature pretty cool.
The following day we attempted the dreaded naps again. Cal woke at 6:30 am and Evie slept till 9 so I hung out with Cal till she woke. After they nursed together I laid them down and they were at it again. M and I let them cry for ten minutes at a time and then go in and soothe them and lay them back down. Once they start fussing we start the clock at 10 minutes. We would do this until it was time for them to nurse again (about an hour or hour and a half). It is freaking exhausting and frustrating going upstairs every ten minutes to soothe them. But I also know that putting in work now will mean more enjoyable babies (and parents) later!
We were getting super frustrated because one would fall asleep and then wake the other one up and vice versa. So we finally caved and said, "Forget this." And we moved them into separate rooms (for nap time). We had a successful nap with them separated and then a not successful nap. It didn't seem like the separate room thing made a giant difference. We decided that these poor babes were trying to learn so much at one time... sleeping in their own room, sleeping in their own beds, self soothing, sleeping for longer lengths of time, and learning to sleep through each others cries etc. Because of this we decided to take out one factor...the waking each other up issue and thought we would just work on putting them in the same room later.
Fast forward to later in the day when I noticed that Cal fell asleep doing tummy time. I know that everything now-a-days is "Back is Best" but my baby was sleeping happily so I marched him up to his crib and laid him down on his tummy. Success! He slept for an hour and a half! I was glued to that monitor like a hawk!
Once they can reliably go to sleep without crying like mad then we will move them back into the same room. And I actually think that will be soon. I can't wait to tell you about day 3... I think I discovered something that is a game changer!